Crib, stroller, car seat, toys, Bumbo, Boppy, Brest Friend, monitor, changing table, room painted, etc. I’ve got them all covered. It’s weird that all those things I spent so much time reading about, analyzing and researching during my first pregnancy are all taken care of.
So what’s left to take care of?
Right now my main concern is keeping this child just as special as we did the first!! I don’t want him to feel slighted. I don’t want him to look back and think…why don’t I have a baby book? How come there are not any pictures of me by myself?
Here is an example of what I am talking about.
After we found out the sex of our first son went to Babies ‘R’ Us right after the appointment and we bought one those ultrasound picture frames. So after this appointment I suggested we find a frame for this baby. Bernie’s response: “Just take Mark’s picture out and put this one’s in it. We don’t need two of those frames.”
NOOOO way!! This baby needs one of his OWN!!! At first I don’t think Bernie understood and didn’t want to be drug into a store just so I could ‘spend money’. I went to BRU a few days later and found a US pic frame for this son, similar but different. After I inserted the pictures, put the frames next to each other, Bernie seemed to understand.
Any ideas or suggestions about how to keep child #2 from feeling like last place baby I would LOVE to hear them!
Both Babies have their own Ultra Sound Picture Frames. What do you think?
amen sister! i have been having the same thoughts:)
I worried about the same thing when Andrew came along, but the truth is that we don’t do the same things for each baby. It’s why people with two or more can always tell when a mommy has only one–they are a little more protective, have a few extra rules, follow more of a schedule, etc, than mommies with two.
You will drive yourself crazy trying to treat your boys exactly the same. Truthfully, that’s probably not what they need. You will find that your boys are two very different people with very different wants, needs, and ways of showing and accepting love. Instead of focusing on doing things fairly for each of them, focus on loving them individually. It may mean that Mark gets a basketball and the other gets a book or lego set. It may mean that you pick up a dinosaur shirt for one that was a great bargain, but didn’t find anything cute for the other. It will mean that Mark gets to do things the baby doesn’t, at least for a while, because he’s older, more coordinated, or more responsible. Each of your boys will feel loved for who they are, and have the freedom to grow at their own pace into their own uniqueness.
I think the fact that you are concerned for this means that you’ll be fine once the baby comes. Relax and enjoy it all.
Great Idea! I’m # 3…do I need to say more? You all are being great parents!
Why don’t you make #2 a frame b/c they are even cuter than the ones you buy at Babies R’ Us! I know that you and Matt (and Mark:) will give your new little one all the love he can absorb. There will be no shortage around the Burnett household.